Love you, Husband.
4 years of marriage has made me realise that love isn’t always a feeling, sometimes it’s a choice. It’s loyalty, sacrifice, being a unit and, sometimes, it’s hard work. Marriage is dedication, and not giving up. Marriage is sharing your life with your best friend. Love isn’t always liking, but it’s solidarity and choosing to reconnect when you’re drifting apart. Although sometimes in marriage we make that decision to choose love, ultimately, a HAPPY marriage is a relationship based on feeling that love and not just tolerating one another. A relationship won’t always compromise at 50/50, at times it can be 60/40, or 80/20. But who’s favour that’s in should always change. Advice I need to remember myself, I definitely expect more than I give sometimes, and often feel I make more effort than I get back. It’s never going to be perfect!
We married quickly. We married when a lot of people thought it wouldn’t work. We married with people judging our choice. I had my own doubts - of course I did, living the Military lifestyle wasn't something I had even considered before. We married because we wanted to give our little family the best shot. We wanted to live together, and being a Military family that meant marriage. Along the way we’ve loved hard, we’ve fought & argued, and we’ve chosen to make the happy memories out weigh any bad.
In the early days I did question my worth as a Wife and a Mother, but I have adjusted from my independence and that’s now passed. I don’t question my beauty, I don’t question our commitment to each other, and to our children. We never fight about money, or who’s turn it is for a lay in. We don’t resent the other person the odd night out. We support each others hobbies and passions. We enjoy eating good food together, and laughing about the most stupid things. We look after each other when we’re ill. We’re a good team. Marriage is the ultimate contract of care for another person. Much like toddlers, we never stop wanting or needing attention.
We have goals, and ambitions. We want to own a property together. We would love another child. We want more frequent date nights. We know that those things may take longer to get than we’d hoped, but our marriage has allowed us to become best friends, where we were once strangers. We have grown to love and respect each other, and to work around and live with any faults and flaws. We may have done the adult life things a bit backwards, but we’re happy, and I’m so glad we took a chance on love.
Four years married, Five years and 8 months together. We’re doing fabulous.
"SMILE LIKE YOU LOVE ME!!!"